Stick Up For Your Feelings!-Social Skills Activity

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Stick Up For Your Feelings!
A Social Skills Feelings Game

A mother I know expressed concerns that her son (who has ASD) was not practicing “whole body listening”. Whole body listening is when you orient your body to face others and pay attention to body language and facial expressions. She said, “He knows what it is but he does not do it!” Well, she was kind of right, but not really. What her son knew was that whole body listening was important to the grown-ups around him but he didn’t really get the point. He had not integrated the relationship between body language and non-verbal communication. He relied on verbal cues and that felt natural to him so he rarely would remember to orient his body to face others. Obviously, being told to do it wasn’t working. Hoping to motivate him through shared enjoyment I use games to build this skill. The first thing we need to do was to define different feelings. Then we need to work on recognizing those feelings by paying attention to the other person’s body language and facial expressions. Learning through playing a social skills activity is a great way to introduce these important concepts. To work on these skills I created this game, My Many Colored Feelings and the How Am I Feeling? Game.

Stick Up For Your Feelings Social Skills Game

This interactive social skills activity can help develop perspective taking skills and whole body listening.

Whole body listening, Social Skills, Defining and Recognizing Feelings, Eye Contact
Stick Figures (I bought mine at a craft store but you can make your own out of stiff paper.)
Game 1:
Have each child choose 3 feelings. I give them a list to choose from. You can make up your own list or find a list on the internet. I use one like this:
Then have the children draw the feeling on the stick figures. Now, let the game begin! Each child has 3 feeling sticks. The object of the game is to identify when they see someone whose body language and/or facial expression matches their stick. For example, Mara looks annoyed, Ben notices so he holds up his “annoyed” stick person. Ben gets a point. You can structure this as an observational circle time activity or have the children pretend the different stick feelings for people to guess. It is fun to have the children “model” the expressions for each other, compare how different people may make slightly different expressions. Have them look in a mirror to see what their face looks like. Talk about different situations where you feel: happy, frustrated, surprised, etc.
Game 2:
The set-up is the same as in Game 1 but this version is an ongoing activity that runs in the background. For instance, I set up the game at the beginning of a session. We make our feelings sticks and then transition to doing other activities. This way the child does not know when the feeling will be acted out so they need to pay attention. By the end of our time together the goal is to score 3 points each. The first time I tried this with one child I had to prompt him to pay attention but after that he averaged identifying 2/3 during our sessions. What was really marvelous is that it was his idea that I play, too. His eye contact has absolutely improved. He carefully studies both his expressions and mine and an even better bonus is that this boy who used to rarely pretend, is now pretending all sorts of scenarios that match the feelings!
Game 3:
This one is not so much of a game but rather an activity to build emotional awareness. For young children choose 3 basic feelings; for example happy, sad, tired, angry, etc. For older children you can have a larger variety. Give each child a cup with their name on it and put their feeling sticks close by. When they start their day have them choose the stick that matches their feeling and place it in their cup. Encourage them to change the stick when their feeling changes. That way if Rosa chooses the “happy” stick when she starts the day but later chooses the “angry” or “tired” stick the adults can then check in with Rosa and talk about her feelings.

Remember: Always stick up for your feelings!


 Social Skills Activity. Explore feelings with this social skills gamePhoto face Collage








  1. These are such amazing games. I am definitely going to fit these into the weekend somehow to help my oldest with emotions. Thanks for sharing <3


  2. I love these ideas! Such great ways to teach about emotions and nonverbal communication…and fun at the same time! Thanks for linking up at the Manic Mondays blog hop!


    1. Thank you, for hosting the Manic Mondays blog hop!


  3. Great game. Emotional literacy is so important in life yet we place little importance on it as a society. I like how you have expanded the game more and more so that it becomes about acknowledging their feelings in life. Great.


    1. You are so right, Kirsten. Emotional literacy is important. Thanks for reading!


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